Making mistakes, honourable agreements and dropping your karma.

One of the most important factors when it comes to new age concepts is recognising when you are giving too much of yourself. In the work that I do, there is a phrase that I often hear from individuals that are in the process of waking up to the bigger picture. That phrase always follows the temperament of ‘handing over to the universe’, or ‘that the universe has your back’. The universe is not biased. It does not follow the orders of benevolence simply because the person exists. It follows and matches the vibration that the person is offering. On EVERY level.

By handing over to something you have no wider understanding of, simply on the whim that ‘everything happens for a reason’, will land you straight back into situations that you no longer wish to face.

To operate at the level of mastery in this particular experience means the complete partnering of both aspects of yourself. The multidimensional and the human itself. The multidimensional realms operate in the same way that the human one does. The only difference is the speed that the realities move in. The human experience was created so that we could track experiences and journeys through linear time. The density of matter is much heavier, so that we can experience things physically. The brain was created to operate in that way so by denying it of itself and disregarding what the human wants and needs are, lends to a painful journey. We have people in life that we gel with and bounce off and find a resonance of energy with. We also meet and have people that we do not and would not ever choose to spend time with. This is not a matter of favouritism or right or wrong, simply just a meeting of the vibration that you are offering. If you do not have a resonance with someone, do not agree or accept anything they are offering you because you will end up giving more to the situation then you get in return. If you do have a resonance, then the partnership will work on both sides because the other person will respect and honour your terms in the same way that you honour thiers.

This is something that many that operate and work with in the ‘spiritual’ or ‘non physical’ realms I find tend to overlook or bypass and when offered an agreement or the entry of a spirit or non physical entity that ‘looks’ on the surface that they are offering an honourable agreement, when in fact they are not. This can have the same impact on the individual as making agreements with those that do not honour you or what you are asking. Relationships in any form will always demand a level of compromise and willingness to hear and adapt to what the other has to say. Do not think for one second, that the spiritual realms will not have similar requirements.

There are many that feel a deep ingrained sense of purpose on this planet for serving others, and whilst that is a true feeling, the feeling of human desire and fulfilling personal goals and desires is equally important. If you consistently deny one to serve the other, you will end up feeling battered, bruised and exhausted. A feeling I have come up against more than once. Many that work partnered with the spiritual realms, myself included, feel slightly ostracised when they start out in this line of work. It is something many are still waking up to the acceptance of the non physical so you tend to get a lot of resistance and angry throwbacks when you offer something that challenges a person’s deeply ingrained beliefs. Eventually you become immune to it and it no longer affects you, but at the same time, it also limits your expectations for the type of person you will attract to your work and I found in my case, you end up giving a lot a way for free, just because you become hungry to offer your services in some form, to be recognised for the work that you do when the responsibility and knowledge that comes to the job is the same of a person with a PHD qualification in medicine. You don’t take the work lightly, nor the work and time you put in just to get to that level of expertise, yet you are so grateful to get work and gain people’s trust in what you are offering, that you accept very little in return, just happy to finally have someone to work with in amongst the judgement and ideologies that have been connected to that line of work for eons. The only problem being that buzzing feeling you get when practicing something you enjoy became short lived when I didn’t respect my own work enough to know it was worth charging for it in a way that would ensure I was fed afterwards. At the end of the day, I would not offer what I could do, if I could not do it.

You are always in control of your space, in the same way that you allow humans in, the same follows for the spirit world. You can detect bullshit a mile off simply by listening to your gut, and that goes for both sides of the coin. Physical and non physical. Do not ever make agreements with anyone before they state who they are and what they are looking for. If in any way what they are saying feels off or purely orchestrated from the ego, then do not accept it. You always have a choice.

Something very valuable that I learnt when it comes to clients and particularly business, and a very difficult lesson at that, was that, they are seeking help from you. If that person’s agenda is off or you suspect there is an underlying operative at work, do not agree to do the work as you risk your own protection.

At the beginning of this year, I started to get a lot more work in. Word of mouth seemed to spread really quickly, I got an influx of repeat and new clients and seemed to be attracting work left right and centre through social media, even directly through the website which I was over the moon about. The work was paid as well so people were happy to pay for my services and it brought with it a real sense of achievement.

A couple of months down the line, I agreed to work with an individual that at the time I could see was experiencing a split in his personality that entered into the realms of concerning mental health. I had learnt to read this in an individual and the warning signs that presented themselves in  the personality very quickly and although I understand how to assist in the reintegration of the separated personalities, it cannot be done safely if the person creates a fixation or idolisation around the person helping them because the intentions of the individual needing the assistance take on a biased and they will fight to keep the selfish, ego orientated personality on top so you will essentially be fighting a loosing battle with them. Their perception becomes altered so that anything you say to them, they change into a version of what you were saying that fits into their own agenda.

I recognised that this person had created a personal fixation towards me but I was naive to think that because I am in a very happy, loving relationship with someone already, and the individual I was working with had already witnessed this and actually met my partner, this alone would deter the individual’s personal objectives and I would still be able to work with them and help them.

Never a mistake to be made again. Shortly after, I started to receive inappropriate messages via every social media platform I had, until the abuse got so much and so upsetting, that I strongly had to advise the individual to seek external professional help and blocked him with a warning from every line of contact I could. He had separated his personality to such an extent that he actually blamed this inappropriate, abusive alternate personality on an external entity and reasoning which it was not. It left me so shook up by the whole experience that I wanted to take all of it down and not touch that line of work again because it was on course to effect my personal life which I would not tolerate. I removed my website and completely stayed away from that work for a while until eventually, I missed it so much, that I started to naturally gravitate towards it again as the pull was undeniable and I had started to feel like a part of me was missing. I had worked so hard to get to that point and felt like I was being denied something that I really wanted and enjoyed.

It was one of the hardest lessons I had to go through but in truth, this time around, it taught me to always trust my skills and never to compromise my own standards and protection. I knew that I should have advised that individual to seek help from someone else and I didn’t and I paid the price which will never happen again.

It doesn’t matter what line of work you are in, and what agreement it is that you are entering into, if something feels off, then it’s not for you, because you will end up untangling a world of pain that you never asked for in the first place. Even if logic and reason dictate otherwise, and often moral obligation will try to argue favourably if you have a strong past with that person, that feeling in the pit of your stomach won’t ever steer you in the wrong direction. Saying ‘no’ now, can save you a world of pain further down the line. Things always work 2 ways and if the connection or agreement in some way feels unbalanced, then it is.

You are always responsible for your choices and they always play a part, even in the circumstances that are outside of you that feel unfavourable. Even by simply engaging and feeling emotionally triggered and drawn to something that on the surface has absolutely no immediate connection to you, is because something within that situation is igniting an area of judgement you are still holding and there is deeper knowledge and acceptance about YOU to be discovered as a result of it. The quickest way out of any situation is to recognise and take responsibility for you choice, even if those around you have acted unacceptably, forgive yourself and simply don’t make that choice again. You are not defined by your past, only by who you choose to be now and anyone can change if they make that choice. The term karma has developed a bit of a reputation that what goes around comes around and I find people often worry about the choices they have made in the past coming back to bite them later down the line. If that were true, you would never get off that train and simply by thinking that you are always going to be followed, waiting to be tripped up for things you have done in the past, then you always will be, as your energy is simply serving up that vibration. You can always choose to drop your karma, you simply choose to by choosing not to enter or give your energy to situations that no longer serve you or the greater good. You take the lessons from the past, and use them as a platform of how not to do things and become an experienced, refined and honourable version of yourself.

Always treat others, in a way that you wish to be treated and expect the same back for yourself.

Have a great weekend!

Stef Baker

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