You have drawn this message as you are currently allowing someone else's idea of what is 'good' or 'right' for you to dictate a very important aspect of your life which is not in alignment with who you really are, your purpose, or your desires. Ask for the the connected person and circumstance to be revealed to you and where you have adopted this idea or perspective. It may surprise you where it has come from and its origin! From there you can make a new choice as you become aware of what doesn't serve you.